WHY QUICKIES ARE THE NEW HOT SEX? TOO BUSY TO BONK?
HOW TO HAVE SEX LIKE YOU'VE JUST MET IN THE TIME IT TAKES
TO BOIL A KETTLE...
Standing positions make it easier to re-adjust if you get surprised
WHEN you first get together, you can't keep your hands off each other.
A steamy look at a party or an accidental-on-purpose brushing of legs
under a table has you hailing a cab in no time.
But once you've been together for years, sex is likely to be relegated
to the back-burner.
Familiarity doesn't necessarily breed contempt, but it can breed boredom.
The mystery is gone, you've seen each other at your worst and life
gets in the way - work, the kids, DIY and the dishes all conspire to
push that passion fix lower and lower down the priority scale.
The main obstacle to frequent sex is the idea that it has to be a
But satisfying sex need take only minutes.
Whether you've been together 50 days or 50 years, a "quickie"
will give you that just-met thrill and you can find the time
wherever you are.
Think of it like fast food - naughty but very nice. Here are some
hot tips to get your heart-rate soaring.
Have an affair..
..as long as it's with your partner! Affair sex is rarely dull, which is
why so many people risk so much to play away.
One of the main reasons it's exciting is the fact that you have so
little time together you make the most of it.
Imposing the same time restrictions in a long-term relationship will
recreate that excitement - without the potentially disastrous
Make lots of dates to meet outside the home. Seeing your other half
for a quick lunch in the week will mean you savour your time
And take a tip from illicit lovers when it comes to technology.
Rather than saying, "Can you pick up some milk?" they use mobile
phones to send X-rated messages or even have phone sex.
Also, why not log on to an adult chatroom as if you were strangers
and make rude suggestions? By the time you actually meet, you'll be
so dying to get it on, it'll all be over in seconds.
ALWAYS having sex in your own bed may be comfortable but it
features low on the excitement scale.
It's the very fact that you're not supposed to have sex outside
the home that makes it appealing. After all, forbidden fruit is
always the sweetest.
But the first rule of risque sex is, be discreet.
Sex in public places is illegal and while the possibility of
being spotted may give you a thrill,it will soon die down
when you're being bundled into a police car, adjusting your
Ann Summers thong.
The second rule is, you don't have to go the whole hog.
In crowded places, use the situation as an aphrodisiac.
Push your hand under your partner's shirt or top at the cinema,
stroke their inner thigh with your stockinged foot under a table, or
discreetly stroke their bottom at a party.
Then whisper something wicked in their ear. Your anticipation levels
will shoot sky-high in no time.
Dress with intent
REMOVING clothes will slow the whole thing down, plus being caught,
literally, with your pants down would be an embarrassing experience.
So avoid awkward belts, wear skirts and trousers with zips rather
than buttons and leave off underwear. The whole thing will go a lot
Assume the position
ON the whole, quickie sex lends itself well to standing positions -
either facing each other (depending on your height difference) or
That way, it's quicker to readjust yourselves if you're suddenly surprised.
Get a little help
SURPRISE your partner by whipping out a sex toy.
Check out your local sex shop for pocket-sized, discreet items,
from an ultra-quiet micro-vibrator for women to a vibrating penis ring,
which can satisfy you both. If you're shy, buy online at:
You can even get toys disguised as lipsticks, pens and even
mobile phones! But check them out for noise before you buy.
And if you're flying off for a dirty weekend, pack them in your
suitcase to avoid giving airport security a thrill.
Cut the O-bsession
YES, it's good to have an orgasm but don't look at it as the be-all
The aim of sex is to enjoy yourself and that can mean teasing
each other into a simmering state of excitement -to be concluded
later in the day.
Why it's good for you
THE phrase "use it or lose it" applies to everything, sex included.
So the more quickie encounters you have, the more your libido will rise.
And the more often you become sexually aroused, the more you'll
release mood-lifting brain chemicals.
Not only that, frequent sex is good for your relationship. During sex
(and even cuddles) you release a hormone called oxytocin, which
helps couples bond emotionally.
WHEN YOU HAVE MORE TIME
Here are three naughty things to try:
RUDE FOOD Food and sex are both sensual pleasures so why not
combine them by eating your favourite food off parts of your
partner's body... strawberries and cream, anyone?
HOME MOVIES Strictly for those in long-term secure relationships
(you don't want to end up on the internet!).
Making your own erotic films can be a huge turn-on, just make sure
you lock up the tapes afterwards.
BONDAGE Don't worry, we're not talking black leather and whips.
This can be lots of fun but is something you should only try with
someone you trust completely.
Grab an old pair of tights or some silk scarves and practise a bit of
And if you don't find it sexy, at least you'll have a laugh trying it.