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Hi

 

On the website there is an article where Paul mentions when he was subjected to bullying and also gives the opportunity for anyone else to share their experience of bullying with him by means of an email address.

This however when used returns the mail to the person who sent it.

 

 

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Hi GMAC the link was disabled by our technicians as we wanted it to be on the open forum and anything regarding this subject can now use this as a direct communication on the severe impact that Bullying can have.

 

Each week we have a NEW news item for our members to debate and this is one that we should all note and give some input so well done for the post and pointing out the email link that was disabled.

 

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Do not sit in silence vent your anger here and expose the BULLIES for what they are wherever they may lurk.

 

You all have a voice now and this is the time to use it and Keep It REAL!


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Hi GMAC...thanks for your post.  At least the Executive seems to be doing something on this matter, and there are several other websites that specialise in dealing with bullying, however, try this one out first and see what you think. http://www.antibullying.net or http://www.bbclic.com

 

The Anti-Bullying Network is changing but our core belief remains the same: that children and young people have the right to live, to play and to learn in environments with a non-bullying ethos.

The Scottish Executive established the Network in 1999 so that teachers, parents and young people could share ideas about how bullying should be tackled. In the final months before the ABN is replaced by a new anti-bullying service for Scotland in April 2006 we shall be concentrating on helping those adults who work in and with school communities to develop better approaches to tackling bullying.

We hope that people outside Scotland find this website useful, but please note that the Network only deals with bullying related to school communities - and its consequences. Priority is given to requests for information that come from within Scotland.


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I once suffered bullying in the workplace.It was the first (and last) time for me and i wasn't sure at first that it was happening, the more i was being made to look an idiot in front of people was when i realized she (my manager) was doing it for kicks. I was twenty yrs old at the time, it was made harder for me to deal with as she'd been a family friend whom i'd known for years and given me the job in the first place.It all started off well and i was very confident i was doing a great job.Then gradually the niceties stopped and the 'sarky' comments and questioning my competence were fired at me every opportunity she got...the bigger the audience she had..the better, in front of clients,colleagues,anybody,she'd shout across the room,when i was with a client she'd find some excuse to come over and embarrass me.I dreaded getting up for work and had nothing else on my mind for months.Family didn't see this side of her and i'm sure doubted how bad it was at the time, i got on brill with the rest of my colleagues and even they tried to help but to no avail.It inevitably came to a head one day when i was told she'd been passing my clients on to mostly herself and saying to clients through telephone conversations i no longer worked there. Well that  was it for me, i 'cracked' and the only way i saw out of it..so i waited till nobody was around,followed her to the staff room...and booted her all over it...i then packed up my stuff and left that day.Not a word was said to me by my family, which was partly why i let it go on so long,being young and naive at the time, as they realized it must've been bad for me to do that as i was the quiet one at that time.

I wouldn't advise anyone else to do what i did, that was fourteen yrs ago, there's obviously more that is done with these bullies these days, but well i believe that sometimes attack IS the best form of defence. xxxsteeleyma

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Hi steeleyma It just goes to show that bulling is not really confined to the things that happen in school with the kids.

 

I had a similar one with a job I once had and hated the managers attitude as he was only made manager as a result of family ties and the power went right to his napper as he was OK before he got the post then with a little bit of power came the DEMONS.............I am sure the guy changed overnight into a right B*****D and because I was no more than two minutes late from a lunch break tore right into me in front of everyone and it lasted for ages as I then knew he was out to get me for nothing really just a bully B******D on a power trip and yer right every morning I had to face this and hated the work but needed the dosh so I eventually blew a fuse and told him to stick the job where the sun don't shine.............................but others put up with it especially the women and he thought he was gods gift (nay mirrors in his house) so I can relate to what you posted and well done stand up to them when they have no audience and they tell you some crap that the boss said I had to do this and that............S***E he knew what he was doing so stand up for your rights to be treated right in any workplace as respect for others costs us nothing but lack of it defines a persons make up especially when they are in a position of authority even though they can send you packing don't tolerate bulling in any way as they will run over the top of you and try and ruin your life so well done steelemya...........


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Bullying is something we can deal with through the education of others who have had personal experiences such as your own and what other members think about this issue.

 

The anti-bulling links that we enabled was to bring attention to this issue for others to benefit from some degree of comfort and understanding that is not widely available so we hope to have helped contribute to this menace wherever it may take place.

 

 


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Hi real1, welcome back! It is a very common thing happening to people at work everywhere and like you and i put up with it as long as we could as we needed the pay. Needless to say she didn't last too much longer in the job and was fired after a long string of complaints to the employers.You're spot on with the 'excuses' part, hers to me was that she'd been having a rough time of it at home with her partner!Aye right! I hope anyone out there going through this takes our advice and do not put up with the daily torture and sickening feeling of having to go to face this at work,or anywhere,get straight to your boss each and every time it happens till something is done about it,why should you leave a job which you may love and lose your bread and butter through a bully! If it is the boss him/herself then pack up and move on as it'll run you down and you might even do what i did and end up in trouble. xxxsteeleyma

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Hi REAL1, Hammer6 & Steeleyma... thanks for all your posts on the topic of 'bullying'.  It is absolutely horrifying to read about the experience's of others at the hands of bullies, and it is a subject that I personally, am very passionate about - bullying MUST be stamped out in ALL areas of life, be it school, the workplace, the home, or indeed anywhere.

 

I was bullied mercilessly throughout my high school years - more mentally than physically, but BOTH aspects of bullying, whether it be physical or mental, can be just as damaging, and have life long consequences for the sufferer.  In my case, it got to the point where my option was to either fight back, or suffer a lifetime of mental anguish.  I fought back, which wasn't easy and took a lot of courage because it could have backfired on me which would have resulted in the end of my education, but I won, and from that day on, I vowed that NO ONE would bully me again - physically or mentally.  Due to my own personal experiences, I now loathe people who bully or intimidate others, and if I ever see it, I WILL get involved, as I truly believe that you should treat others as you would expect to be treated yourself.

 

With regards to REAL1 and Steeleyma, bullying in the workplace is, unfortunately, very common, but again, must not be stood for, and I thank you both for sharing your stories with us. Steeleyma, you are bang on when you say that if the bullying doesn't stop, you are better to move on.  Although a job is one's bread and butter, there are more jobs out there, but we all only have one mind, one life, and one chance, and we must not waste it, or even worse, let the bullies win.  BULLYING MUST BE STAMPED OUT.


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I do hope that the SCRO are not attempting to bully 'Gary Dempster' into keeping quiet or suppressing his freedom of speech as BULLIES come in many shapes and forms and should NEVER be tolerated.


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I do hope that the SCRO are not attempting to bully 'Gary Dempster' into keeping quiet or suppressing his freedom of speech as BULLIES come in many shapes and forms and should NEVER be tolerated.

Hi Hammer6...thanks for your above post.  I would say that the SCRO (and above) ARE indeed bullying Gary Dempster, based on the fact that he is now facing disciplinary action for the (truthful) comments that he made on the Frontline programme with regards to the Shirley McKie affair, and I also firmly believe that they will go to any lengths to punish him for telling the truth, which is absolutely outrageous.  But then again, isn't that what bullies do? 


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Well done to steeletma,REAL1, GMAC,Admin and hammer6 for highlighting and sharing issues of real concern from the schools to the workplace and NEVER EVER SUFFER IN SILENCE.

 

Admin the links you provided are ACE and anyone who needs help with this issue tell someone as we can beat them all if we expose them no matter where they are!


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Hi Admin2...thanks for you post with regards to 'bullying'. I sincerely hope the links that I provided in my above post dated 13/03/06 are useful to anyone who is suffering or has suffered at the hands of bullies, or indeed who have children who are being bullied, and would love to hear feedback from anyone who has since used them.  Hope they help!!


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Found this on the Lothian and Borders Police Website

http://www.lbp.police.uk/freedom-of-information/publications/e-opp/equal/some_definitions/bullying_abuse.htm

BULLYING/ABUSE OF POWER

Using offensive, intimidating, malicious or insulting behaviour, abuse of power or unfair use of sanctions towards a person. The effect is often to make someone feel threatened or vulnerable and to undermine self confidence.

Magpie Says: Even the Police own website defines Police Abuse of Power as the same as Bullying. Police Abuse of Power is one of the worst forms of BULLYING.

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Hi Magpie, Bullying happens in all walks of life from schools to the workplace, family life, on the streets and even in institutions that should know better.

 

Great post!


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